DEAR ABBY: I reside in an condo constructing. I’m quiet and hold to myself. There’s a concierge right here who’s extremely nosy. Once I choose up my package deal, she asks, “So, what’s within the package deal?” as if I’m doing one thing nefarious. She’s additionally a horrible gossip and a liar.
On the entrance desk, in addition to to administration, she has accused me of doing issues that by no means occurred — sexual impropriety, drug and tobacco use, and so on. I began receiving unusual, unsigned textual content messages with the identical accusations. I can normally acknowledge who contacts me. My contact info was obtainable within the workplace.
This lady just lately accessed my condo utilizing a grasp key. Happily, I used to be dwelling on the time. She was fired, however she was again final weekend. Our supervisor stated she is right here “briefly” till he can discover a alternative. There are a number of copies of those keys on the market, and I now not really feel protected in my own residence. What would you do if you happen to had been me? — INVADED IN GEORGIA
DEAR INVADED: Doc all of the incidents which have occurred. In the event that they proceed, write down the time and date they happen. This can show helpful ought to you have to escalate the matter. That the supervisor rehired a fired worker due to a workers scarcity is disappointing. (It shouldn’t have occurred, and there are higher methods of augmenting workers wants.)
As a result of your supervisor has been unresponsive, attain out to the property proprietor or administration firm and report what has been happening. If that isn’t efficient, report the matter to the police. Your security and well-being should come first.
Should you can afford to have interaction an lawyer, seek the advice of one for recommendation on authorized choices you’ll be able to take into account to guard your self from harassment, hostility or bullying. If the scenario doesn’t enhance, take into account discovering a brand new place to reside.
DEAR ABBY: I’m at the moment married, however I’m trying to get an annulment or divorce. I’ve met a girl I’m falling for. She is aware of my marital standing and feels the identical means about me.
I promised her my marriage could be over inside eight months, however she feels that with my divorce, my spouse ought to go away even when I transfer out and hire out my portion of the home. (My soon-to-be ex and I at the moment reside on reverse sides of the home.) Do you agree? — MAKING CHANGES IN NEW YORK
DEAR MAKING CHANGES: Whether or not or not I agree is irrelevant. The one that ought to be answering this query is the lawyer who will symbolize you within the divorce. Should you actually plan to depart the wedding, make an appointment NOW to debate it.
P.S. And, please, give your self time after the divorce is closing quite than tie the knot once more on the rebound.
Expensive Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, also referred to as Jeanne Phillips, and was based by her mom, Pauline Phillips. Contact Expensive Abby at http://www.DearAbby.com or P.O. Field 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.
